When the Longing Becomes Light: Through The Void on The Twin Flame Journey

There’s a point on the twin flame journey when you ask yourself, broken and exhausted, "Will this emptiness ever end?"

And the honest answer is: yes.

But not in the way you think.

Not by getting what you thought you needed.

Not by reunion solving everything.

The void doesn't go away because someone else fills it.

It goes away because you do the inner work.

At the beginning, I thought I felt hopeless.

It felt as if this connection was a punishment, a cruel joke played by the universe to show me everything I couldn’t have.

The love I want - tangible, physical, human - out of reach, mocking me.

I tried to force it into being.

I tried to rationalize it away.

I tried to persuade myself that I didn’t want it.

But the twin flame journey doesn’t let you hide.

It takes you apart.

It tears down every illusion you ever built: about yourself, about love, about what would make you whole.

And somewhere in the ashes of all that burning, something else begins to reveal itself.

Not your twin.

Not your happy ending.

You.

The real you.

The one who was never broken to begin with.

The one who was always whole but didn’t know it.

You realise that the void you felt was not created by your twin’s absence.

It was created by the ways you had abandoned yourself long before they ever arrived.

There comes a moment when all the illusions burn.

When you stop clinging to a human outcome.

When you stop waiting for love to arrive at your door.

When you finally see that sacred union is not something you find: it is something you become.

The void you feel is real.

It is painful.

It is the fire of initiation.

But it is not forever.

Because as you walk deeper into your own soul,

as you let go, not from defeat but from trust,

as you surrender the need for anything outside you to validate your worth,

the void begins to fill.

Not with anything external.

But with the divine presence that has been within you all along.

And when that happens,

the longing fades,

the ache quiets,

and the desperate reaching softens into peace.

Because you no longer need to be saved.

Because you have already come home.

I appreciate this is easily said. I can assure you that it’s true from my own experience. But here are some practices that may help you to embody this truth for yourself:

Daily Practices

(Think of these as watering the seeds every day.)

1. Self-Devotion Practice (5 minutes a day)

• Each morning or evening, light a candle (or even just pause) and consciously place your hands on your heart.

• Say out loud or internally:

  "I am already whole."

  "I choose to return to myself."

  "Love lives in me. Love is me."

• Visualise yourself as a beautiful flame - whole, bright, alive - with no gaps, no missing parts.

You are reinforcing truth over feeling.

At first it might feel fake. That’s okay.

This is about building a bridge to the deeper reality that already exists.

2. Witness Your Longing Without Feeding It

• When you feel the void, the loneliness, the ache - don't suppress it and don't spiral into it.

• Instead, sit with it as if you are sitting with a child who is crying.

• Gently say to yourself:

  "This longing is not wrong. It is showing me where love wants to grow within me."

• Breathe deeply and imagine softening around the feeling instead of tightening or resisting.

You are teaching your nervous system that it is safe to feel emptiness, and by doing that, you transform it.

3. Nature Contact (Daily if possible)

• Spend time outside - even 10 minutes - consciously connecting to life around you.

• Look at a tree, the sky, the earth and remember: everything here is in relationship.

• Feel how the earth already loves you - with every breath, every blade of grass, every beam of sunlight.

The void shrinks when you reconnect to the living world, not just the mental/emotional world.

Deeper Practices

(These are more transformational over time.)

4. Inner Child Dialogue

• Your twin flame journey triggers old wounds - especially of abandonment, not being chosen, being unworthy.

• Set aside time (even once a week) to journal or meditate:

  "Little Me what do you need from me today?"

• Write down whatever comes.

• Then write back from your adult self: reassuring, comforting, LOVING that inner part the way you wish someone had done long ago.

You are slowly filling the void from inside out.

5. Shadow Work Ritual

• Once a month (or when it feels strong), intentionally sit down and ask:

  "What feeling am I most afraid to feel right now?"

  "What am I still hoping someone else will fix for me?"

• Let yourself name it honestly without shame.

• Then say:

  "I claim this shadow as part of my wholeness."

• Imagine embracing the part of you that is still afraid or hurting.

Instead of exiling your pain, you are loving it into healing.

Mindset Reframe to Carry Every Day

"I am not healing to get something.

I am healing to remember I already have everything."

The twin flame path is about becoming love, not earning love.

Every day you return to this truth, you weaken the illusion that anything outside of you can complete you.

Quick Summary:

Practice	Focus	How Often?
Self-Devotion	Remind yourself you are whole	Daily
Witness Longing	Hold yourself tenderly in the void	Daily
Nature Contact	Feel life loving you	Daily if possible
Inner Child Dialogue	Heal abandonment at the root	Weekly
Shadow Work	Transform fear into acceptance	Monthly or when needed

Here’s a Sacred Ceremony of Returning to Self that you can do at home.

This isn’t about "doing it perfectly."

It’s about setting an intention so clear, so true, that it reshapes the energy you are walking with.

🌸 Sacred Ceremony of Returning to Self 🌸

Purpose:

To honour the end of clinging, the end of waiting, the end of seeking outside yourself, and to reclaim your inner wholeness.

To mark the sacred turning point: from longing ➔ to living in love.

✨ What You’ll Need:

• A candle (any size or colour — something you like)

• A small bowl of water (to represent emotion, soul, purification)

• A stone or crystal (optional — something that feels grounding)

• A piece of paper and a pen

• (Optional) Some flowers, incense, or music you love

  
  

✨ Steps:

1. Prepare Your Space

• Choose a time when you won't be interrupted.

• Clean the space lightly beforehand (even just tidying a corner) to show you're creating sacredness.

• Lay everything out before you — candle, water, stone, paper.

• Light your candle.

Say aloud (or whisper):

"I am creating a sacred space to return to myself. I am ready to release what no longer serves me. I am ready to remember who I am."

2. Ground Yourself

• Sit comfortably.

• Hold your stone or simply place your hands over your heart.

• Take 7 deep, slow breaths.

  • On each inhale, imagine breathing in peace.

  • On each exhale, imagine letting go of fear, longing, grasping.

Feel yourself sink into your own body, your own energy.

3. Invocation: Calling In the Divine

Say (in your own words, or use this):

"Divine Source, Love that lives within me and around me,

Be here now.

Help me remember that I am already whole,

Already loved,

Already free."

4. The Release: Letting Go of Clinging

• Take your piece of paper.

• Write down everything you are ready to release:

  • "I release my fear of being alone."

  • "I release the belief that my twin has to choose me to be worthy."

  • "I release my attachment to a human outcome."

  • (Anything else that comes.)

When you're done, fold the paper and touch it to the flame (carefully — you can have a fireproof dish ready) or rip it up and drop the pieces into the water.

As you do, say:

"I let this go. I choose to walk free. I choose to trust Love itself to lead me."

5. The Return: Reclaiming Yourself

Now place your hands back over your heart.

Say:

"I welcome myself home.

I am love.

I am whole.

I am my own beloved."

If you feel moved, you can gently touch your shoulders, your arms, your face, affirming to yourself that you are precious and beloved exactly as you are.

Imagine golden light filling every part of you that once felt hollow.

The void becoming a wellspring of light.

The missing pieces were never missing, they were just waiting for you to remember them.

6. Closing the Ceremony

• Thank yourself for showing up.

• Thank the divine presence (however you sense it).

• Blow out the candle, saying:

  
  

"This flame continues in me."

You might want to end by listening to a beautiful piece of music, going outside to touch the earth, or simply sitting in silence for a few minutes.

🌟 Aftercare:

The ceremony will shift something subtle but deep.

In the days that follow:

• Be gentle with yourself.

• Watch for small moments when you feel lighter, freer.

• Repeat to yourself often:

  "I am my own beloved."

If grief arises honour it.

It is part of the clearing.

If joy arises welcome it.

It is the new life coming through.

And if you feel called to seek personal support along the way, know that you don’t have to walk this path alone. I’m here when you need me. Learn more about what I offer here.

A note on AI & my writing:

I use ChatGPT as a writing assistant—not as a writer. These are my thoughts, ideas, and words, shaped by my lived experience and deep love for self-work, self-awareness, the spiritual journey, and astrology. AI helps me refine, structure, and nudge me toward better phrasing, but the voice you’re reading is mine. I use it as a tool to help me put into words everything I believe is valuable in sharing my insights. Honesty matters to me, and this is simply one way I bring my thoughts to life.