When The Astrology Is Intense

A guide to emotional healing when everything feels like a lot

Clearing the Heart

We are always walking around with an iceberg of buried feelings just below the surface.

Shame. Grief. Anger. Fear. Disappointment.

Most of it so old we hardly remember where it came from. But it lives in us, in our physical body, our emotional body, our mental loops, our spiritual aching.

And most of us have never been taught how to feel it.

We’ve been told to stop crying, calm down, be quiet, carry on.

From a young age, we learn to push our feelings aside, to keep the peace or protect our place in the world. Our very survival depends on being accepted, and so we become masters at suppression.

But the body remembers.

The Past Isn’t Just Behind Us, It’s Inside Us

Every uncomfortable feeling is a doorway. A signpost pointing inward.

Not to shame us or punish us, but to help us see what we've buried.

When the astrology is intense - during eclipses, retrogrades, or major transits to our natal placements (where The Gods sit in your birth chart) - those inner signposts become louder. The veil lifts just enough for us to see where we’ve been carrying the weight of the past.

We might find ourselves in situations that feel uncannily familiar.

We may be triggered by something small that unlocks a flood of emotion.

We might suddenly feel fragile, angry, sensitive, or overwhelmed.

It can feel like too much.

But it’s not a step backwards.

It’s an invitation.

Feeling to Heal (But Only When You’re Ready)

There’s a reason some emotions stay buried for years.

Sometimes they were too much to feel in the moment they first arose.

Sometimes we didn’t have the tools, the safety, or the time.

So our body held onto them for us. And now, when the moment is right, when we’re stronger, safer, more resourced, The Universe offers another chance to feel what we couldn’t before.

Healing doesn’t come from fixing ourselves.

It comes from seeing ourselves with compassion.

We change not by forcing change, but by understanding what hurts.

By witnessing the feeling, holding it, and letting it soften in its own time.

🕊 Gentle Practices for Big Emotions

If you're in the thick of it, emotionally stirred, mentally foggy, physically tired, these are practices I return to when the sky (or my insides) feel stormy:

🌬 Burn it

Write down everything. The anger, the sadness, the confusion, the memories, the people who hurt you in the past or are hurting you now - all of it. No filters. Get it out of your body and your mind and onto paper. Then (safely) burn the paper. Let the fire transmute what your heart no longer needs.→ [Read the full “burn it” ritual – here]

🌳 Walk it out

Let nature lead. Ask the Universe, “Where should I go today?” and trust the first place that comes to mind. Walk slowly. Notice what’s around you. Let thoughts rise and pass without clinging.→ [Full practice: Walking with the intention to connect with nature – read more here]

🧘 Sit and feel

Light a candle. Breathe into your belly. Ask yourself, “Where is this feeling in my body?” You don’t have to name it. Just be with it. → [Read about emotional experiencing as a practice – here]

💧 Let the tears fall

If you need to cry, cry. There is nothing shameful about your tears. They are sacred water. They are release. They are movement.

🌿 Support from the Earth

Your body is doing a lot. Support it gently with herbal allies that have carried me through many emotional waves:

🍋 Lemon Balm – soothes the nervous system and quiets racing thoughts. A gentle hug in a teacup.

🌹 Rose – opens the heart and softens grief. Sip as tea, add to baths, or wear as oil.

🌿 Motherwort – calms anxious hearts and brings you back to your centre.

🛡️ Yarrow – strengthens emotional boundaries and helps you stay brave when the feelings are big.

(Always check safety and suitability before using herbs.)

💎 Working with Crystals for Support & Transformation

Crystals have been part of my life for years now. I use them daily, but especially when I’m moving through something emotionally intense or energetically heavy. There’s something deeply reassuring about having that quiet, ancient support close to my body or in my space.

I wear one as a pendant, sometimes I hold one while journaling or meditating. There’s always one in my pocket.

They don’t fix anything, but they remind me to stay present, open, and supported.

Here are a few I return to again and again but I recommend going to a crystal shop and seeing what calls to you - you'll end up with the crystal you need for the moment you are in:

💚 Malachite – Transformation & Truth

This is the one I reach for when I know something big is shifting. Malachite doesn’t mess about, it gets straight to the heart of things and helps you release old stories. It’s intense, but powerful.

🤍 Clear Quartz – Clarity & Amplification

The “Master Healer,” Clear Quartz brings light to confusion and helps you hear your own truth more clearly. It amplifies whatever you’re working on, intentions, healing, insight, and gently clears emotional fog.

🌊 Chrysocolla – Expression & Emotional Release

This soothing stone softens tension in the heart and throat, helping you speak from truth and feel what’s ready to be released. Like water on stone, it encourages honest communication and emotional flow.

🔵 Lapis Lazuli – Wisdom & Inner Knowing

A deep, royal stone that awakens your inner voice and connects you to ancient wisdom. Lapis helps you see through illusion and speak your truth with grounded strength.

❤️ Red Jasper – Stability & Courage

Earthy and grounding, Red Jasper is the stone I turn to when I need to feel held. It brings a steady kind of strength, quiet, enduring, and brave, and helps you stand your ground without losing your softness.

🖤 Black Tourmaline – Grounding & Protection

Perfect for when the energy feels noisy or overwhelming. This one helps me come back into my body and feel safe, especially in busy places or emotional conversations.

💗 Rose Quartz – Self-Compassion

Sometimes we don’t need to push through—we need to soften. I use this when I need to be reminded that love is here, even when I’m struggling to feel it.

You don’t need a huge collection. Just start with one that calls to you. Hold it. Breathe with it. Carry it in your pocket. Place it under your pillow. Let it remind you, you are held.

To learn more I recommend you do your own internet search and let yourself be guided to what you need to learn in the moment.

🫶 If It Feels Like Too Much

Sometimes healing means doing something very small. Here are a few gentle anchors that help bring me back to myself:

🌱 A magic walk

Let your walk become a conversation with The Universe. Ask for signs. Follow your instincts. Let nature be your mirror.

🌟 Gratitude

Right now. Three tiny things you’re grateful for. Let your nervous system remember that not everything is heavy.

🌌 Ask for magic

Say it aloud or whisper it in your mind: “Dear Universe, please show me something magical today.” Then stay open.

🧣 Wrap yourself in softness

Blankets. Socks. Tea. Gentle words. Offer yourself the kind of care you would give to a scared child. “You’re safe. I’ve got you.”

Let It Rise, Let It Go

The difficult moments aren’t detours. They are depth.

Every intense feeling is your soul whispering, There’s something here to see.

Let it rise. Let it move through. And when you’re ready, let it go.

Because here’s something we don’t hear often enough:

Sometimes your emotions are meant to be dysregulated.

When someone disrespects you. When a boundary is broken. When your heart aches or your world shifts - dysregulation isn’t a failure.

It’s a sign you’re connected to your emotional truth.

Being emotionally regulated doesn’t mean being calm all the time. It means allowing your emotions to move - rage, grief, sadness, joy - and then coming back to yourself.

Screaming into a pillow, sobbing, shaking, hitting a cushion, going for a wild stomp through the woods - these are not signs you’re broken. They are signs you are feeling. Your body is doing what it knows how to do: release.

To feel is to be human.

To move through is to heal.

To recover is to remember your centre.

You are not meant to be calm at all times. You are meant to be real.

You are allowed to come undone.

You are allowed to recover.

You are allowed to feel everything and still be whole.

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A note on AI & my writing:

I use ChatGPT as a writing assistant—not as a writer. These are my thoughts, ideas, and words, shaped by my lived experience and deep love for self-work, self-awareness, the spiritual journey, and astrology. AI helps me refine, structure, and nudge me toward better phrasing, but the voice you’re reading is mine. I use it as a tool to help me put into words everything I believe is valuable in sharing my insights. Honesty matters to me, and this is simply one way I bring my thoughts to life.