Choosing You
One of the hardest truths on the twin flame journey is the pain of unrequited love, or at least, that’s how it seems on the surface. In the 3D, we pour love into someone who doesn’t appear to return it. We wait. We hope. We analyse their every move, searching for signs that they feel the same. We believe they are supposed to love us endlessly and magnificently; after all, they are our beloved. And yet, here we are – still watching them run while we try hard not to chase.
Why?
Because deep down, we have a wound. A self-worth wound. We have created a reality where the one person we love most does not love us back. But this is not because we are unlovable. It is because we have not yet learned to love ourselves the way we long to be loved.
The twin flame connection forces us to face this. It demands that we stop looking outward for validation and turn within. The truth is, we do not need their love to complete us; we need our own. Until we heal the self-worth wound, reciprocity will always feel out of reach, because we are not yet giving to ourselves what we crave from them.
We spend so much energy wondering what they are thinking, when they will wake up, when they will return, when they will stop running. But the real question is: when will we stop running from ourselves? When will we stop abandoning our own needs? When will we realise that their behaviour is simply reflecting our own patterns; our lack of self-love, our conditioning, our fears?
The way forward is not through them. It never was. The way forward is within. We must learn to sit with our discomfort, to hold space for our own emotions, to honour our own desires. We must do for ourselves what we wish they would do for us.
We deserve someone who makes plans with us, responds to our messages, wants to know us deeply, invests in us, cares about how we feel. But before we can receive that from another, we must first embody it for ourselves. That is the lesson. That is the transformation.
So, choose reciprocity. Choose alignment. Choose you.
Because when you do, everything changes.
If you’re finding that this journey is especially difficult, and you’re yearning for more support along the way, I want you to know that I’ve walked this path too. As a twin flame myself, I understand the deep highs and crushing lows of this experience. In addition to my work as an astrologer, I offer a Twin Flame Journey Mentorship, where we can explore your personal journey together, or a Twin Flame Astrology Reading to help you understand the cosmic dynamics at play.
I know there’s a lot of mistrust in this space. Too many people take advantage of those seeking answers. That’s not what I’m here for. I don’t promise union. I don’t claim to have all the answers. Instead I can offer hard-earned wisdom, real support, and a compassionate space to help you embrace your journey with strength, clarity, and peace. Read more about what I've learned about The Journey here.
I’d be honoured to walk beside you in whatever way feels right for you.
Remember, you’re not alone. I’m here if you need me.
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